Dating and other dangers first date dos and donts
“Our breakup was pretty nasty, and it was super awkward when we had to be around each other at Panhellenic events…I can only imagine how horrible it would be if you were in the same chapter and a relationship went sour.” Chances are, if you’re a queer girl who decided to go Greek, you’ve done your homework to make sure the sorority you chose is a safe and accepting space.Jordan says that if two sisters in a relationship requested to share a room in the house, they would likely be sat down and advised to take another course of action.“[We’d suggest] either living in other housing on campus together or living in separate rooms in the house,” she says.Before you do, the two of you should discuss how things will change if your relationship doesn’t work out.Sure, it’s not the most romantic thing in the world to have to discuss your ending before even beginning, but it’s important to assess if the risk is worth it.
Speaking of sorority traditions to leave your relationship out of? In some sororities, it might be against the rules—or at least heavily suggested against, according to Jordan, who serves as Vice President of Housing for a sorority at Washington and Lee University.
“No one ever sat down with me and said ‘now you better not do this’ or ‘if I catch you with another member you'll get kicked out,’” says Emily of coming out to her sorority, whose members have always been accepting of her sexuality.
However, depending on your sorority, accepting LGBTQ members might not be the same as accepting intra-sorority dating.
“If you’re not prepared to be seen with your girlfriend as a couple on campus, that’s a setup for a failed relationship.” If this is the case, you and your partner shouldn’t be afraid to have a serious discussion about whether or not now is the right time for a relationship.
Sorority life comes with sisterhood events galore, from movie nights to rituals to recruitment, and after you take your relationship with a sister to the next level, it’s important to remember what these events are for.